We’ve all done it. A bad day at work, a particular person who was rude or took advantage of us, the traffic or lines holding us up from something. Whatever the scenario, the method many of us use to deal with the aftermath is to verbally vent about the situation. While this may seem like a good way to de-stress, it may actually cause more harm than good. Let’s look at why this is the case!
The Snowball Effect
Similar to the theory on the law of attraction, focusing on something can actually fuel the fire and allows you to perpetuate those feelings of frustration, stress and anger. Similarly, like a snowball rolling down a hill, gaining speed and size, so can your emotions worsen a negative situation. “Venting” can actually reinforce aggressive impulses, making you feel worse than if you had simply let the situation roll over you leaving no marks. While some venting may be a cathartic way to release negative thoughts and feelings, there are better methods within reach!
Taking the Higher Ground
While talking through problems can be effective, putting a proper spin to this strategy is the best way to go. Using more effective coping methods such as humor, acceptance, and a change in perspective are surefire ways to come out ahead in such situations, as opposed to stewing in a nasty brew of negative emotions. Laughing about an uncomfortable circumstance is a great and healthy way to alleviate stress, as is accepting a scenario for what it is. By doing these things, you allow your perspective to shift from frustration and anger to something constructive.
While the act of venting imight have an upside, spending too much energy and time replaying a negative loop in your head will not aide you in overcoming the situation. So next time you find yourself righteously complaining about a scenario in which you are badly treated, you can pause, take a deep breath and consider these more constructive ways to come out on top!
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